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God’s Interruptions, Surprises, and Miracles

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God’s Interruptions, Surprises, and Miracles

God’s interruptions serve a purpose and are a teaching tool in His hands. For a second after receiving devastating news our world crashes. We experience the crushing weight of fear gripping our heart and squeezing the breath from our body. The heart breaks into a million little pieces. Reality is that our world has forever changed and life as we know it will never be the same. Reality is too much to bear. Tears and questions light up our mind and we search for answers. The answers are not ones we want to hear. The desire to look to God and surrender the interruption to Him flashes through our mind, but fear has us in it’s grip and holds us back from relinquishing what has consumed and wrecked our peace. Finally, we face the reality and the lack of choices we have in the interruption. The truth of reality is that in this world we often have no control over the interruptions that invade our life. God is our only hope. Desire for a greater faith in Him fills our soul and we seek a miracle that only He has the power to perform. We look to Him for peace and His love calms us as He encircles us with His arms. God is in the struggle, in the midst of the fear and doubt, offering us His peace as the storm swirls around us shaking and interrupting the world we know. Nothing we have experienced has ever struck the cord of anxiety and fear and the loss we feel in our soul today as we look into an uncertain future. Fear and doubt whispers to us in the interruption of our world. Refuse to listen to the lies that invade our thoughts seeking to steal joy, peace, love and faith in God as they assail our mind.    For God has not given us a spirit of fear and timidity, but of power, love and self-discipline. 2 Timothy 1:7 (NLT) Faith in God is the expectation that He will show up and that He is interested in giving us the best He has to offer. Trust in the miraculous love of God, release the hands holding onto what is comfortable and familiar, let go, and let God take over the healing process. Watch as He works in the life of the one we desire a miracle. Our faith believes that God is on our side, every day, all the time. Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and lean not on your own understanding. In all your ways, acknowledge him and he will make your paths straight. Proverbs 3:5-8 (ESV) God often surprises us with interruptions and we need to leave room for His surprises and His miracles. So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand. Isaiah 41:10 (NIV) When you or someone you know experiences one of God’s interruptions  fear, doubt, anxiety, anger, grief, and pain may be your companion. In those gut-wrenching moments there are tears, sorrow, fear of the future, and life-style changes amidst the raging emotions of the surprise interruption. For everything comes from him and through him...

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Jesus, Our Comfort and Peace

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Jesus, Our Comfort and Peace

                                                                                                                                        The aim of our lives and all things is that God will be glorified. What God desires and thinks is of utmost importance in our lives and all that really matters. Seeking Him brings comfort and peace. When we are struggling: Peace comes when we realize He is in control. We are not alone in the journey of life. He is with us in times of joy and suffering. God is in the midst of us and all things come from Him, through Him, and all for His glory. Romans 11:36 (NIV) We grow in our journey and learn to receive and share God’s love showing compassion and understanding to other people. God desires our lives to glorify Him. Dear friends, do not be surprised at the painful trial you are suffering, as though something strange were happening to you. But rejoice that you participate in the sufferings of Christ, so that you may be overjoyed when his glory is revealed. If you are insulted because of the name of Christ, you are blessed, for the Spirit of glory and of God rests on you. If you suffer, it should not be as a murderer or thief or any other kind of criminal, or even as a meddler. However, if you suffer as a Christian, do not be ashamed, but praise God that  you bear that name. For it is time for judgment to begin with the family of God; and if it begins with us, what will the outcome be for those who do to obey the gospel of God? And,             “If it is hard for the righteous to be saved,               what will happen to the ungodly and the sinner?” So then, those who suffer according to God’s will should commit themselves to their faithful Creator and continue to do good. I Peter 4:12-19 (NIV) In the love and hope of Christ, Brenda Luther...

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Look to the Lord for His Strength

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Look to the Lord for His Strength

God, help me to see my life as you see it. Are You Searching? Are you continually searching for God and looking to Him for strength but regress in fear when He comes near? God created us out of His love and He wants us to reach out to Him and allow Him to love us. He always stands in a position of grace waiting for us to come to Him as He woos us. As in the Prodigal story (Luke 15:11-32) the father saw his son far away in the distance and he began to run to him. He was anxious to see his son and welcome him home. God only needs to see you coming as you call upon Him and He runs to meet you where you are just as you are. Look to God for his strength; seek his face always. I Chronicles 16:11 Trusting God Trusting God has been a journey for me. I wanted to trust Him but was fearful and afraid to let go. If I did not try to control the situation or figure the problem out for myself what would happen? A lesson I have learned is that I have no control and that He will not do for me what I am too fearful or proud to let Him do. Needless to say, it has been a humbling process. But I trust in you, Lord; I say, “You are my God.” Psalm 31:14 The End of Ourselves When we come to the end of ourselves and there are no more answers or solutions where do we turn? We turn to all we have and that is God. The result is the realization that we have no control. The result of my hearing a sermon on this Bible verse from my pastor brought truth home to me. As I listened I realized that all the pain and sorrow, the difficulties, the problems, the times of joy and peace were for a purpose. God was bringing me full circle to the meaning of these verses that I had read numerous times but until that day they had not touched my heart. Acceptance is where I found myself. All things come from God, through God, and all for his glory. Romans 11:36 Offer All to God Today I offer all to God, all that I am, all that I will be, and all that I hold in my hands to Him relinquishing control to Him thanking Him for His diligence in pursuing me and His patience in waiting for me to surrender fully to Him. Gratefulness and joy fills my heart today as I accept life is difficult but rest in His love, grace and peace. God is aware of how our problems originated and He is more concerned with us finding answers to our problems. I believe that the ultimate answer to our problems lie in trusting Him and allowing Him to work within our lives to solve the age old question, “What are you going to do with Me?” Surrender and trust is my answer. Being human and flawed sometimes I have to remind myself that “God’s got this!” Remove my hands and rest in Him. And we know that in all things God works for the good of those...

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Good Morning to You!

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Good Morning to You!

Good morning to you! Today it is raining in North Carolina. If you are like me, you are looking forward to Springtime when flowers bloom, trees turn green and daylight savings time begins. The freshness of Spring creates renewed energy within with the promise of beautiful things to come. Green grass, landscaped lawns, the smell of lilac blooming, and Carolina blue skies filled with white fluffy clouds and sunshine fills my heart with thankfulness and gratitude. I never cease to be amazed at the beautiful world God created for our enjoyment as I look forward to Spring on March 20th. Enjoy your day as we grab our coffee, hustle off to work and school looking forward to returning home in the evening. Brenda...

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What is One Thing You Desire to Change?

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What is One Thing You Desire to Change?

Change starts in our mind. What we think determines how we feel and how we feel influences how we act. The uncertainty of how to implement and accomplish that one desire  in our life holds us back and every day we desire to live differently.  We meander through the days of procrastination failing to implement change. If only it would happen magically with no effort on our part. God does not work that way. What do you desire to change? Change starts in your mind and that one thing you need to change lingers in your mind and refuses to go away. What is it? 1. Attitude 2. Weight – lose those extra pounds. 3. Develop the habit of a daily devotional and prayer time. 4. Set the alarm and start the day earlier to prevent frustration of being late. 5. Be kinder to those around you. 6. Spend more time with family. 7. Eat at home instead of eating out four or five times a week. 8. Be more conservative in your spending habits. 9. Plan family getaways several times a year. 10. Attend church on a regular basis. 11. Volunteer at your church or school. 12. Be available for dates with your spouse. 13. Plan meals to make family time a pleasant experience. 14. Take a class. 15. Join a gym. 16. Turn the television off and spend the evening with your family. 17. Find a new job. 18. Discover a new hobby. 19. Learn to play an instrument. 20. Enroll in a book club. Are you ready to take the first step and move forward? The choice is yours. Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable – if anything is excellent or praiseworthy – think about such things; Whatever you have learned or received or heard from me or seen in me – put it into practice. And the God of peace will be with you. Philippians 4:6-8 NIN In the hope of Christ, Brenda Luther thirteenonecoaching.com...

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God is Able…Listens…Loves…

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    God is able… Deep in our hearts we know God is able and we whisper in the darkness “God is able.” We may feel uncertain and unsure of what to do, but God who is able to do more than we can ask or imagine can do that which we cannot do. Ephesians 3:20 Knowing this but maybe not quite fully believing we ask “why” and question God. Job questions God Remember the story of Job? Job questioned God and he struggled in the darkness confessing his lack of understanding of all the things he suffered. Job did not doubt God was able to sustain him. He simply did not understand why these things were happening to him. He constantly asks, “Why?”.  Seeking answers Job looks within himself confessing his inability to understand all he is suffering. Job found his answers within God. Throughout the book of Job we watch as God instructs, teaches, grows and stretches him. Job sought God for direction and answers to his dilimena and we can find answers to our questions and the solution to our suffering and pain within God as Job did. Do you question God? Is He silent? Do you experience times knowing you are wrapped in His loving arms, but He appears distant and silent in the darkness? Your questions linger with no apparent answer and no solution. Prayers appear to evaporate into thin air going nowhere. The cry of your heart asks, “Why?” We whisper with doubt in our hearts to ourselves in the darkness, “Is God able?” Is God listening? Does He love and care about me? Does He remember I am here? These and other questions invade your mind. The dry dark periods test your faith and the joy of relationship. Hang on! God is not finished with you or me. He continues to write the chapters of your life working behind the scene molding and shaping you into what He desires you to become as He continues to write your story. Through the years I have asked these same questions when the path was lonely, dark, and silent. I wait knowing God is working to bring me closer to Him, instructing, teaching, growing and stretching me. I do not like it and I turn to Him sometimes in anger asking “Why?”.  Tired and weary I did not stop with “why”. I asked, “Can I have a break?”. The break I sought did not come, but seeking God through prayer, talking to Him, and reading His Word peace finally came as I surrendered to Him. Trusting that He alone knows that my heart, my longing to be obedient and my desire to grow loser to Him in the midst of my suffering, questioning and anger. Job replies to God. “I know that you can do anything, and no one can stop you.” Job 42:1-2   The love of  God… God’s love makes our existence here on earth acceptable as we trust in Him for all things knowing that all things work to the good of those who love Him and are called according to His purpose. Romans 8:28 When we are living in the loneliness of darkness and silence God never fails us. We continue to pray knowing He hears and answers our prayers in...

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Forgotten by God…

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Forgotten by God…

  Has God forgotten you? Sometimes life looks bleak and you feel forgotten by God.  You question God.  Where are you? Do you remember me? God, have you forgotten me? Silence greets you. This place you traveled is temporary. God uses a time of sorrow and uncertainty for His purpose and your benefit. He will bring you back to a place of joy. Your faith will be strengthened and proven to be genuine resulting in praise, glory, and honor when Jesus Christ is revealed. I Peter 1:1-9 Have you been there? It is a lonely, dark, and desolate place. Go to God and His Word for nourishment, comfort, and encouragement. God takes you… through trials and times of despair only to renew your spirit on the road leading to Him. Your hope, answer, and solution to living a life full of joy and peace mixed in with the sorrow and trials of the world is found in God. God has never forsaken you nor forgotten about you although feelings tell you otherwise. Feelings are fickle and untrustworthy. He longs to hold you and comfort you. “So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.” Isaiah 41:10 Your fears battle your faith and you turn from God. He longs and waits for you to turn back to Him. Do not be anxious or discouraged. He is your God and He will help you when your faith falters, doubts assault you, and you question Him. Do you believe God’s promise? Do you believe what He says? Is it true? Yes, means you accept His truth. He will be with you, strengthen you, and bring you to a place of joy. Brenda Luther                                                                                                                                                        thirteenonecoaching.com...

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Loneliness…

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Loneliness…

    Loneliness   Loneliness engulfs my spirit and my soul experiences sadness. Oops, sadness engulfs me as I try pushing my head up from the pillow to start a new day. What happened so long ago that left me experiencing loneliness and hopeless despair? What is the cause of the emptiness that wells up inside me? Divorce, rejection, unfaithful spouse, sickness, or a friend’s betrayal? Looking back God’s hand lifts my body up from the depths of loneliness and despair loving me through pain, loss, and rejection. Come to me, my child, rest in my loving arms. Family, friends, and spouses may betray us. It may have been jealousy, greed, or simply to gratify a selfish desire. It startles, surprises, and leaves us fearful to trust. Following Jesus does not allow for living in the status quo arena. Growth, change and moving forward is part of following Him. Growing closer to Jesus He leads step by step along the path he has designed for our journey of life. Where do you place your hope? Is it in material things? People? Money? All are temporary and fleeting. Our hope lies in Jesus Christ. Put your faith in the one who comforts you, watches over you, and walks beside you. “But now, Lord, what do I look for? My hope is in you.” (Psalm 39:7) What David couldn’t do he realized God could. Hope can be found when we realize the truth that all things pass away even pain and pleasure, but God is always with us. Do you want to take the next step with Jesus? Are you ready for a fresh start? What steps or changes do you need to make to walk with Jesus Christ and move forward in faith experiencing the peace that only He can give? Is God calling your name to step out in faith and trust Him? He never calls us to do what He will not give us His grace to fulfill. Remember where He calls you to go He goes with you. Brenda Luther, thirteenonecoaching.com  ...

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Love and Marriage

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Love and Marriage

                                                                                                                                                                                                              In your marriage what may seem so small and insignificant may often be the thing that makes the one you love feel loved and appreciated. There are many ways to say, “I love you,” but never forget to speak the words.                                                                                                           Ways to share and say, “I love you” in your marriage:  Leave no room for doubt that loving your spouse is your priority.  Express appreciation and gratitude for all that is done for you.  Give each other room to grow. No one wants to be smothered.  Practice patience even when irritation threatens to overwhelm you.  Kiss goodbye and hello. Tell your spouse I love you and you are important to me.  Protect your marriage by setting time aside at the end of the day to spend together.  Always act with a respectful attitude in word, deed, and action.  Maintain a home filled with love, seeking one another’s best, and a safe atmosphere to share your deepest thoughts and feelings.  Seek friends who encourage you and your marriage.  All the things that irritate you let them go or discuss them and come to a resolution.  Avoid the people in your life who seek to pull you apart, cause disruptions, and dissension. Look for ways to encourage instead of complaining and learn to talk and listen to one another.  Always stand up for your spouse. Never gossip or allow anyone to talk unkindly about them.  Look for opportunities to show love.  Hold hands, hug, and be affectionate.  Prayer is effective and a tool that should not be forgotten in safe guarding your marriage.  Reading God’s Word together helps you view life from God’s perspective.  Refuse to harbor resentment or hold grudges. Let it go.  Don’t give up. Your marriage is worth fighting for.  Make the decision to stay together and love one another regardless of the difficulties.  Marriage is important and not to be taken lightly. Pray for your spouse. Be intentional about your marriage.  Be present in the moment and listen. Communication is crucial to a successful marriage.  Forgive easily and quickly. Pray for your spouse.                                                                                              ...

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Are you suffering from codependency?

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Are you suffering from codependency?

Codependency is an addiction to people, behaviors, or things. Do you… 1.   deny your feelings stuffing them deep inside of you? 2.   anticipate the needs of other people, but unaware of your needs? 3.   feel like a victim stuck with no way out? 4.   deny reality to cope in your codependent world? 5.   allow the ghosts of your past to torment you? 6.   always give but never receive? 7.   attempt to control people, behavior, and things? 8.   assume responsibility for the choices people make? 9.   suffer from lack of boundaries in your life? 10. have difficulty setting boundaries? 11. allow people to consume your thoughts? 12. allow other people to control and manipulate you? 13. experience difficulty making decisions and distrust the decisions you have made? 14. seek to please people fearing rejection? 15. have difficulty saying “No” without feeling guilty? 16. live in denial, anxiety, and fear? 17. define yourself by your relationships? 18. look to others as the source of your fulfillment and happiness? 19. have a habit that dominates or continues to repeat itself in your life? 20. know there is something missing inside of you? 21. confuse compassion, pity, or comfort for love? 22. know your faults and take responsibility or do you shun responsibility? 23. take better care of people in your life than yourself? 24. suffer from wavering between dependence and interdependence? 25. feel unloved and empty? Jesus said, “The truth shall set you free.” John 8:32 Codependents want control and the thought of giving up control is frightening as fear rises choking the life out of us. We feel like we are losing ourselves and dying as we give up control. Trust is difficult. Feeling unloved and unlovable we hold onto anger, resentment, and fear. Facing our fears, relinquishing and surrendering ourselves to God is the beginning of healing. In the past I doubted God loved me or even knew who I was. My head said He loved me, but my heart doubted Him. Are you there? Have you been there? I questioned Him and was angry. God is so good and patient with us. He whispers in our heartaches, tears, and unbelief. He loves us in and through the pain. Surrendering and walking in fellowship with Him, engaging in conversation throughout the day, makes the painful recovery process easier. Run to Him. Rest in His loving arms as He walks with you on the road to recovery. Trust Him. He loves you. Brenda Luther Thirteen One Coaching February 2, 2016...

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