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God’s Interruptions, Surprises, and Miracles

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God’s Interruptions, Surprises, and Miracles

God’s interruptions serve a purpose and are a teaching tool in His hands. For a second after receiving devastating news our world crashes. We experience the crushing weight of fear gripping our heart and squeezing the breath from our body. The heart breaks into a million little pieces. Reality is that our world has forever changed and life as we know it will never be the same. and we search for answers. The answers are not ones we want to hear. Fear and doubt whispers to us in the interruption of our world. Refuse to listen to the lies that invade our thoughts seeking to steal joy, peace, love and faith in God as they assail our mind.    For God has not given us a spirit of fear and timidity, but of power, love and self-discipline. 2 Timothy 1:7 (NLT) Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and lean not on your own understanding. In all your ways, acknowledge him and he will make your paths straight. Proverbs 3:5-8 (ESV) So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand. Isaiah 41:10 (NIV) For everything comes from him and through him and to him are all things. To him be the glory forever! Amen. Romans 11:36 (ESV)                  I want to leave you with hope flowing through your heart. It is the Lord who goes before you. He will be with you; he will never leave you or forsake you. Do not fear or be dismayed. Dueteronmy 31:8 (ESV) For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that everyone who believes in him will not perish but have eternal life. John 3:16...

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Jesus, Our Comfort and Peace

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Jesus, Our Comfort and Peace

Come to me, all who are weary and heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Matthew...

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Be The Difference in Someone’s Life

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Be The Difference in Someone’s Life

1. Send flowers with a note of love, thinking of you, or encouragement. 2. Lunch on the patio at their favorite restaurant. 3. Listen when they speak making eye contact 4. A compliment 5. A phone call reminding them you are thinking of them 6. Run an errand or offer to pick up items they need 7. Greet them with a smile 8. Invite them over for coffee or tea 9. A small gift – a potted plant, package of their favorite coffee or candy 10. Invite them to a movie, a play, or for a walk 11. Prepare a meal when they do not feel well or having a hectic day 12. Share a book you recently read that they may enjoy 13. Offer to watch their children so they can have a break and relax Be the difference in someone’s life today. “Life isn’t about living, it’s about making a difference.” JR “So encourage each other and build each other up…” I Thessalonians...

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13 Traits of Right Relationships…

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13 Traits of Right Relationships…

  1.   Accept – you for who you are 2.  Comfort – gives you reassurance  3.  Defend – protect and guard you  4.  Dependable – reliable, faithful  5.  Encourage – nurture, inspire you to reach your dreams  6.  Energize – gives you inspiration to reach beyond the ordinary  7.  Kind – affectionate, loving  8.  Motivate – creates a desire within you to be all you can be  9.  Patient – never rude, tolerant 10. Promise kept – what they say is what they do 11.  Trust – honest and integrity 12.  Understand – if not, love you anyway 13.  Listens – not only to the words, but listens with the heart, engaging in conversation Relationships can be good or bad and bad relationships can put you on the wrong road. When we make wrong choices and become involved in wrong relationships we can be influenced to make wrong decisions. Listen. God will warn you. “Lead me by your truth and teach me,  for you are the God who saves me. All day long I put my hope in you.” Psalm 25:5 brenda@thireteenonecoaching.com          brenda luther        ...

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13 Recommended Books

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13 Recommended Books

These are a few of the books that have impacted my life. I have been a lover of books and an avid reader since I was a young child. My first book that I remember not counting the Bible was The Wizard of Oz given to me when I was six years old.  Books can take you places you have never been, teach you things you did not know, and enrich your life. If you are not a reader, you are missing out on so much good stuff. My mother taught me to love books. My earliest memories of my childhood are of my mother reading stories about God to my siblings and me at bedtime and then we would knell beside our bed and pray. If you have a book that has made a difference in your life, please send me an email. I would love to hear from you. 1. All In – Mark Batterson You are one decision away from living a totally different life 2. Walking with God – John Eldredge Talk to Him. Hear from Him. Really. 3. Boundaries – Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend When to Say Yes When to Say No to Take Control of Your Life 4. Created to Be God’s Friend – Henry T. Blackaby How God Shapes Those He Loves 5. Broken Down – Paul David Tripp Living Productively In a World Gone Bad 6. Loneliness – Elizabeth Elliott It can be a wilderness. It can be a pathway to God. 7. The Insanity of God – Nik Ripkin A Faith Resurrected 8. Wild at Heart – John Eldridge Understanding the Secrets of A Man’s Heart 9. Attachments – Dr. Tim Clinton and Dr. Gary Sibcy Unlocking the Secret for Loving and Lasting Relationships 10. Broken Children, Grown-Up Pain – Paul Hegstrom, PH.D Understanding the Effects of Your Wounded Past 11. The Five Love Languages – Dr. Gary Chapman How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate 12. Having A Mary Heart in A Martha World – Joanna Weaver Finding Intimacy With God In The Busyness of Life 13. When God Stopped Keeping Score How to Break Free From A Past Filled With Hurt, Guilt, and Anger Through the Power of Forgiveness – R.S. Clark, M.Ed. The Bible is the most important book written and God’s instruction book to us on how to do life. We learn how to love, guard our hearts, pray, how to love and serve other people, develop relationship with God and serve Him, and much more. This is one book we ought not neglect. God speaks to us through His Word guiding and teaching us bringing us closer to Him. Brenda Luther Thirteen One Coaching...

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13 Ways to Show Your Love

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13 Ways to Show Your Love

  Attributes of love… 1.  is patient 2.  is kind 3.  is not jealous 4.  is not boastful, proud, or rude 5.  does not demand 6.  is not irritable 7.  keeps no record of wrong 8.  is never glad about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out 9.  never gives up 10.  never loses faith 11.  is always hopeful 12.  endures through every circumstance 13.  will last forever Love is defined in I Corinthians 13:4-8 giving us a description of God’s kind of love. Our selfish nature goes against this kind of love because it is selfless and not focused on our needs, but on the needs of others. To love directing love outward and not inward toward ourselves we need God’s help to set aside our selfish nature. The more Christlike we become the more love we can receive and share. Faith, hope, and love are intertwined together. It takes faith, hope in the power of God, and acts of commitment and sacrifice as we allow God to love others through us expecting nothing in return. “…but if I didn’t love others, I would be of no value whatsoever.” I Corinthians 13:1-3 brenda luther     thirteenonecoaching.com    ...

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13 Things to Enjoy and Energize You!

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13 Things to Enjoy and Energize You!

1. Walk on the beach 2. Watch sunrise or sunset (I enjoy both) 3. Read a book 4. Listen to music – worship music, country, jazz, blues, beach 5. Drive with the windows down 6. Conversation 7. Smile 8. Children/Grandchildren 9. Volunteer to help someone 10. Dance 11. Reflect on God’s unconditional love for you 12. Enjoy time with family 13. Laugh The best thing in life to be is yourself. Do something today for you that makes you feel happy and carefree.         “This is the day the Lord hath made.         Rejoice and be glad in it.” Psalm...

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13 Things I am Thankful for Today

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1.  Family – their love, hugs, laughter 2.  Jesus – that He was willing to die for my sins 3.  Health – although there are days I may not feel good, there are more good than bad days 4.  Sunshine – I love the sunshine. It always reminds me that God is with me 5.  Blue skies filled with white fluffy clouds 6.  Rain – the world looks so beautiful, fresh, and new after the rain 7.  Rainbows – a reminder of God’s love and His promises 8.  Spring time when all the flowers bloom and the grass and the trees turn green 9.  Birds chirping in the early morning hours sharing their songs with the world 10. My Mother who read to me as a child and taught me about God 11.  Friends who walk the journey of life with me 12.  Pastor Jonathan Robbins at The Summit Church whose sermons convict me, encourage me, and fill me with the desire to know God more intimately, and to share God’s love with others 13.  God for His love, mercy, and grace that carries me through each moment of the day and His Word that often convicts me but soothes my soul and gives me guidance When we step back and look at our lives we are so blessed. Instead of dwelling on the negative aspects of your life today, “count your blessings”. Some days it may be difficult due to circumstances in your life to think of one thing you are thankful for because it is difficult to drag your body out of  bed and face the day. You want to curl up in the warm covers and escape the world and the challenges it offers today. I understand. We have all been there. Start your day before you jump out of bed with a prayer to God thanking Him for His blessings and thank Him for walking alongside you today holding your right hand through each difficult moment, loving you, giving you strength, and encouraging  you. Soon those difficult days will turn into days filled with moments of joy and peace as you become ware of God and His love for you.           “Praise the Lord!          Give thanks to the Lord, for he is good!                 His faithful love endures forever.”  Psalm 106:1 Brenda Luther          ThirteenOneCoaching.com               brenda@thirteenonecoaching.com    ...

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Is Fear Holding You In It’s Grip?

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Is Fear Holding You In It’s Grip?

We set ourselves up for failure and do not realize it because of the fears and beliefs that we have buried within us. Is it that we have been taught that we are not good enough, perfect enough, pretty enough, not as smart as our siblings, or we were told we expect too much? Some of these fears are buried within many of us and we push them to the bottom refusing to let those thoughts and emotions see the light of day. Because of these fears and beliefs we learned or were taught as a child we experience guilt and/or anxiety. How do we overcome the fears and beliefs we hold within us? How do we allow them to rise to the surface? How do we expel them from within us? How do we turn those negative thoughts that keep us guilt ridden and full of anxiety into something positive within us? The decision to stop sabotaging ourselves and the desire to grow as an individual who wants to reach their God-given potential is key to overcoming those self-defeating fears and stopping the self-sabotage. I know a wonderful person that each time life appears to be moving forward and everything looks to be falling into place from my point of view looking from the inside out self-sabotages their life. This is destructive to our well-being, our peace of mind, and the life that God has designed for us to live becoming all that He wants us to be in order to do all that He has called us to do. Do you desire to move forward and become all that God who loves you so deeply desires for you to be? Is fear holding you back? We all experience fear but letting go and releasing your fears to God allows Him to come along side holding your right hand guiding you forward. What a joyous feeling to realize that God loves us so much that He cares about every little detail of our life. I don’t know about you but knowing and believing this gives me a feeling of relief and peace. I do not have to try to control the details of my life. He controls them all as I release all to Him. Life does not just fall into place over night. It is a continual growing process moving us forward as we surrender our fears and beliefs to God that trap us and hold us back from becoming all that we can be for Him. Today is decision day. Read  your Bible, spend time in prayer and conversation with God, share your story with someone you can trust and accepts you as you are regardless of the circumstances. If there is no one like that in your life and you need someone to share with, contact your pastor, a counselor, or a coach who can come along side you and walk with you through the fears and the beliefs that are dragging you into despair and handicapping your life. God can be trusted with the details of your life and mine. “What is the price of five sparrows? A couple of pennies? Yet God does not forget a single one of them. And the very hairs on your head are all numbered. So don’t be...

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Pain. Reassurance. He Makes Me Brave

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Pain. Reassurance. He Makes Me Brave

  Pain? What is pain? Discomfort? Uneasiness? Anxiety? Dull ache? Excruciating? Distress?  Hopelessness? Helplessness? Pain is all of these things to me. At this moment I feel numb and empty. There are no words to express my feelings. The words evade my thoughts. Have you felt these emotions rush over your body invading your spirit? Recently I had two dental procedures believing they were necessary to evade a root canal in my future. Regret is a mild word to describe my feelings at the moment as I experience discomfort and pain. Maybe a root canal was in my future but now I say, “If it does not hurt, leave it alone.” Next time I will think through a recommendation more thoroughly. I do not know about you but I always seem to learn my lessons the painful way. Is there any other way to learn? My thoughts drift to God and His blessings amidst pain, disappointment, and that dull empty feeling that drifts into my life at times. I ask why? There is no answer. His Word reassures me that He loves me, is with me, and that all is in His design and His desire to mold me and make me, humble me, and create an awareness in me that only He can fill. Have you heard the song, He Makes Me Brave? The song wanders through my mind. It is true. God’s love washes over me and crashes over me giving me strength as His grace makes me brave to embrace Him who created me and desires for me to follow Him regardless of where the journey may lead. My pain and discomfort is mild compared to others I know that suffer from serious illnesses and heartache. Although one thing I have learned in my life is that pain is pain regardless of the severity. As I allow God to work in my life I release my all to Him knowing that He holds my future in His hands. He takes my broken life and uses it for His glory and His purpose. The following is Paul’s Prayer in Ephesians 3:14-19. Today I pray this prayer for you. “When I think of the wisdom and the scope of God’s plan. I fall to my knees and pray to the Father, the Creator of everything in heaven and on earth. I pray that from his glorious, unlimited resources he will give you mighty inner strength through his Holy Spirit. And I pray that Christ will be more and more at home in your hearts as you trust in him. May your roots go down deep into the soil of God’s marvelous love. And may you have the power to understand, as all God’s people should, how wide, how long, how high, and how deep his love really is. May you experience the love of Christ, though it is so great you will never fully understand it. Then you will be filled with the fullness of life and power that comes from God.” (NIV) In this moment stop and allow God to embrace you as His love washes over you and crashes over you filling those empty places within you with His love and grace....

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