What is One Thing You Desire to Change?

Posted by on Mar 1, 2018 in Action Steps, Change

Change starts in our mind. What we think determines how we feel and how we feel influences how we act. The uncertainty of how to implement and accomplish that one desire  in our life holds us back and every day we desire to live differently.  We meander through the days of procrastination failing to implement change. If only it would happen magically with no effort on our part. God does not work that way. What do you desire to change? Change starts in your mind and that one thing you need to change lingers in your mind and refuses to go away. What is it? 1. Attitude 2. Weight – lose those extra pounds. 3. Develop the habit of a daily devotional and prayer time. 4. Set the alarm and start the day earlier to prevent frustration of being late. 5. Be kinder to those around you. 6. Spend more time with family. 7. Eat at home instead of eating out four or five times a week. 8. Be more conservative in your spending habits. 9. Plan family getaways several times a year. 10. Attend church on a regular basis. 11. Volunteer at your church or school. 12. Be available for dates with your spouse. 13. Plan meals to make family time a pleasant experience. 14. Take a class. 15. Join a gym. 16. Turn the television off and spend the evening with your family. 17. Find a new job. 18. Discover a new hobby. 19. Learn to play an instrument. 20. Enroll in a book club. Are you ready to take the first step and move forward? The choice is yours. Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable – if anything is excellent or praiseworthy – think about such things; Whatever you have learned or received or heard from me or seen in me – put it into practice. And the God of peace will be with you. Philippians 4:6-8 NIN In the hope of Christ, Brenda Luther thirteenonecoaching.com...

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God is Able…Listens…Loves…

Posted by on May 1, 2017 in Action Steps, Personal Growth Tips, Spiritual Help

    God is able… Deep in our hearts we know God is able and we whisper in the darkness “God is able.” We may feel uncertain and unsure of what to do, but God who is able to do more than we can ask or imagine can do that which we cannot do. Ephesians 3:20 Knowing this but maybe not quite fully believing we ask “why” and question God. Job questions God Remember the story of Job? Job questioned God and he struggled in the darkness confessing his lack of understanding of all the things he suffered. Job did not doubt God was able to sustain him. He simply did not understand why these things were happening to him. He constantly asks, “Why?”.  Seeking answers Job looks within himself confessing his inability to understand all he is suffering. Job found his answers within God. Throughout the book of Job we watch as God instructs, teaches, grows and stretches him. Job sought God for direction and answers to his dilimena and we can find answers to our questions and the solution to our suffering and pain within God as Job did. Do you question God? Is He silent? Do you experience times knowing you are wrapped in His loving arms, but He appears distant and silent in the darkness? Your questions linger with no apparent answer and no solution. Prayers appear to evaporate into thin air going nowhere. The cry of your heart asks, “Why?” We whisper with doubt in our hearts to ourselves in the darkness, “Is God able?” Is God listening? Does He love and care about me? Does He remember I am here? These and other questions invade your mind. The dry dark periods test your faith and the joy of relationship. Hang on! God is not finished with you or me. He continues to write the chapters of your life working behind the scene molding and shaping you into what He desires you to become as He continues to write your story. Through the years I have asked these same questions when the path was lonely, dark, and silent. I wait knowing God is working to bring me closer to Him, instructing, teaching, growing and stretching me. I do not like it and I turn to Him sometimes in anger asking “Why?”.  Tired and weary I did not stop with “why”. I asked, “Can I have a break?”. The break I sought did not come, but seeking God through prayer, talking to Him, and reading His Word peace finally came as I surrendered to Him. Trusting that He alone knows that my heart, my longing to be obedient and my desire to grow loser to Him in the midst of my suffering, questioning and anger. Job replies to God. “I know that you can do anything, and no one can stop you.” Job 42:1-2  ...

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Posted by on Oct 7, 2015 in Action Steps, Personal Growth Tips, Spiritual Help, Uncategorized

God asks…”Do you trust me?” We waver back and forth in our decision to trust Him. Often we take matters into our own hands with the attitude, I can do it on my own. God asks…”Do you trust me?” Do you trust me enough to: 1.  let go and let me be in control? 2.  step back and wait on me? 3.  accept my forgiveness? 4.  accept the sacrifice of my Son, Jesus, for your sins? 5.  accept salvation that is offered freely? 6.  give me all the burdens dragging you down and keeping your mind unsettled? 7.  help you forgive someone who has hurt you deeply and pray for them? 8.  heal your wounds inflicted upon you by a spouse? Child? Friend? Co-worker? 9.  give you strength of character, wisdom, and knowledge to face the questions and the answers encountered in daily living? 10. forgive your spouse, friend, or family member who turned their backs on you, slandered your name with lies, and refused to accept responsibility for their behavior? 11. trust me and be obedient to my Word? 12. accept my love? 13. follow me? Do you remember the song Trust and Obey? “Trust and obey, for there’s no other way to be happy in Jesus than to trust and obey.” It was one of the first hymns I learned to play on the piano. My sisters and I used to play church all the time. Believe it or not, I was always the preacher. Amazing, because I was a shy little girl. My sister, Glenda, played the piano, and my sister, Diane, and I were the singers. Singing and playing church were two things I enjoyed besides riding my bike. Church was one thing we knew. Every time the doors opened we were there. I am thankful that my Mother taught me the love of Jesus and encouraged me to follow Him. There is no greater gift we can give our children than to teach them of Jesus and His love,  to trust  and follow Him accepting His gift of salvation. We grow up. Life happens and through the difficult times our faith and trust in Him falters. Doubts assail our thoughts. We waver in our trust of God wondering and questioning Him in the midst of pain, suffering, loss, and difficulties. Eventually we realize that living life on our own is not working and we turn to Him. The words of the song are true; “Trust and obey, for there’s no other way to be happy in Jesus than to trust and obey.” Lord, may our answer to the questions today be, “yes”, and may each of us  surrender all to you trusting in your unfailing love. Help us to rejoice in you as you heal the pain that disrupts our joy and robs us of precious moments with our family and friends and the joy...

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Depression – Seeking to Help

Posted by on Sep 16, 2015 in Action Steps, Depression, Goals, Spiritual Help

Depression…                                                                                                                                                                             When seeking to help someone suffering from depression it is important to show unconditional love and listen with a non-judgemental attitude. The suffering of depressed people among us is a call for us to help by reaching out and giving unconditional love and acceptance, and offering encouragement as we come alongside to help them move forward. Many of us have suffered from depression and can identify with those who are depressed. Our goal is not to enable. Our goal is to encourage them to reach out for help, to set goals, to change their thought pattern, seek God and learn more of Him as they search for stability and peace. Suggestions for encouraging people suffering from depression.  1. Come alongside showing unconditional love and acceptance.  2. Encourage a healthy nutritious eating plan.  3. Pray with them and encourage Bible reading and prayer.  4. Listening is more important than giving advice.  5. Share and encourage listening to inspirational music.  6. Support them setting aside time for exercising, walks in the  park, hobbies, family and friends.  7. Encourage fun times and laughter with an invitation to a movie or a concert.  8. Remember the power of touch and kind words.  9. Keep in touch by phone, occasional visits, or plan lunch on a regular basis. 10. Send an occasional encouraging card. 11. Plan a fun trip to the beach, mountains, or a picnic with friends. 12. Help and encourage them in setting goals to move forward. 13. Encourage them to seek medical help from a doctor who treats depression. People Caring for Family and Friends For people who care for family and friends suffering from depression it is important to care for yourself and your own emotional needs while seeking to help others. Suffering from Depression? For those suffering from depression – every day we have a choice. I understand how difficult making a choice can be, struggling to get out of bed, the stress of getting dressed, driving to work,  interacting with people, and muddling through another day. My prayer is that you will refuse to surrender to depression and seek help to rid yourself of those thoughts and feelings that are robbing you of happiness and the joy of friends and family. If you are suffering from depression, I encourage you to see your doctor or a counselor. Great is his faithfulness:  his mercies begin afresh...

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13 Things to Enjoy and Energize You!

Posted by on May 11, 2015 in Action Steps

1. Walk on the beach 2. Watch sunrise or sunset (I enjoy both) 3. Read a book 4. Listen to music – worship music, country, jazz, blues, beach 5. Drive with the windows down 6. Conversation 7. Smile 8. Children/Grandchildren 9. Volunteer to help someone 10. Dance 11. Reflect on God’s unconditional love for you 12. Enjoy time with family 13. Laugh The best thing in life to be is yourself. Do something today for you that makes you feel happy and carefree.         “This is the day the Lord hath made.         Rejoice and be glad in it.” Psalm...

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13 Things I am Thankful for Today

Posted by on May 5, 2015 in Action Steps, Family, Personal Growth Tips, Spiritual Help

1.  Family – their love, hugs, laughter 2.  Jesus – that He was willing to die for my sins 3.  Health – although there are days I may not feel good, there are more good than bad days 4.  Sunshine – I love the sunshine. It always reminds me that God is with me 5.  Blue skies filled with white fluffy clouds 6.  Rain – the world looks so beautiful, fresh, and new after the rain 7.  Rainbows – a reminder of God’s love and His promises 8.  Spring time when all the flowers bloom and the grass and the trees turn green 9.  Birds chirping in the early morning hours sharing their songs with the world 10. My Mother who read to me as a child and taught me about God 11.  Friends who walk the journey of life with me 12.  Pastor Jonathan Robbins at The Summit Church whose sermons convict me, encourage me, and fill me with the desire to know God more intimately, and to share God’s love with others 13.  God for His love, mercy, and grace that carries me through each moment of the day and His Word that often convicts me but soothes my soul and gives me guidance When we step back and look at our lives we are so blessed. Instead of dwelling on the negative aspects of your life today, “count your blessings”. Some days it may be difficult due to circumstances in your life to think of one thing you are thankful for because it is difficult to drag your body out of  bed and face the day. You want to curl up in the warm covers and escape the world and the challenges it offers today. I understand. We have all been there. Start your day before you jump out of bed with a prayer to God thanking Him for His blessings and thank Him for walking alongside you today holding your right hand through each difficult moment, loving you, giving you strength, and encouraging  you. Soon those difficult days will turn into days filled with moments of joy and peace as you become ware of God and His love for you.           “Praise the Lord!          Give thanks to the Lord, for he is good!                 His faithful love endures forever.”  Psalm 106:1 Brenda Luther          ThirteenOneCoaching.com               brenda@thirteenonecoaching.com    ...

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