Guard Your Heart
M. Scott Peck in his book, The Road Less Traveled said, “Two people love each other only when they are quite capable of living without each other but choose to live with each other.” (p98)
The butterflies in the stomach we associate with falling in love fail to last. These feelings are an inadequate foundation for marriage although one may feel that everything is all right with the world. Failure to see the real person and recognize their imperfections eventually brings heartache and the breakup of the relationship.
Emotions come and go, feelings are fleeting and change as couples spend time together and begin to know one another. Feelings cannot always be trusted. Difficulties in the relationship occur when, for example, you realize they are self-centered, preoccupied with their job, or desire to spend less time with you. To build relationship together takes time, energy, conversation, sharing of our stories, reading scriptures, nurturing one another, being emotionally involved and engaged with one another. Love is seeking then other person’s highest good and requires discipline, sacrifice, and acceptance.
Relationships can be good or they can lead you down the wrong road. In the desire for relationship we need to seek God and heed His warnings. In Proverbs 4:23 God said, “Above all else, guard your heart…”(NIV)
What attracts us to one another? A smile? Personality? Character? Kindness? This immediate attraction can be fleeting or may develop into greater love and understanding of one another as spiritual intimacy is pursued. As we grow together love, faith, and hope increases. Relationships that last are built on God’s design for marriage in His Word. It does not mean there will be no problems but when the problems occur we stand together seeking God’s desire for our marriage.