Forgotten by God…

Posted by on May 20, 2016 in Spiritual Help

  Has God forgotten you? Sometimes life looks bleak and you feel forgotten by God.  You question God.  Where are you? Do you remember me? God, have you forgotten me? Silence greets you. This place you traveled is temporary. God uses a time of sorrow and uncertainty for His purpose and your benefit. He will bring you back to a place of joy. Your faith will be strengthened and proven to be genuine resulting in praise, glory, and honor when Jesus Christ is revealed. I Peter 1:1-9 Have you been there? It is a lonely, dark, and desolate place. Go to God and His Word for nourishment, comfort, and encouragement. God takes you… through trials and times of despair only to renew your spirit on the road leading to Him. Your hope, answer, and solution to living a life full of joy and peace mixed in with the sorrow and trials of the world is found in God. God has never forsaken you nor forgotten about you although feelings tell you otherwise. Feelings are fickle and untrustworthy. He longs to hold you and comfort you. “So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.” Isaiah 41:10 Your fears battle your faith and you turn from God. He longs and waits for you to turn back to Him. Do not be anxious or discouraged. He is your God and He will help you when your faith falters, doubts assault you, and you question Him. Do you believe God’s promise? Do you believe what He says? Is it true? Yes, means you accept His truth. He will be with you, strengthen you, and bring you to a place of joy. Brenda Luther                                                                                                                                                        thirteenonecoaching.com...

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Words

Posted by on Aug 6, 2015 in Personal Growth Tips

Words … Because I think it does not necessarily mean I need to speak it. Sometimes I speak before I think. Are you guilty like me? As I realize and understand the value and impact of words, I desire to be more thoughtful before I speak. My desire is to have my spoken words to be words of love, that encourage, provides hope, and brings joy and laughter to people’s lives. I ask myself, “Do I always use wise words making the most of every opportunity and is my conversations filled with grace?” Colossians 4:5 What do my words say about me? About you? Are my words pleasing to God? Are yours? With a word God created the world, healed the sick, and cast out demons. Words are powerful. What is in our hearts is revealed when we speak. Words can change the quality of our life for good or evil, affect our mood, change our behavior, cause us to stumble, to question our choices, or help us make wise choices. Our words have the same affect upon other people. One word can change my day, your day, your spouse, our children, our life, and the people who cross our path. Let us change our day and their day with kind, encouraging words that will impact their life for good. When someone speaks sharp, unkind words to me in anger I wonder and question “Why”? Are they having a bad day? What did I do wrong? At other times I receive words that encourage and uplift me and make me smile. I forget that my tone of voice is important and affects the impact my words have upon others. Our tone can reflect happiness, anger, impatience and frustration. Take time one day and listen to your words and listen to the tone of your voice. If you are like me when you are busy and preoccupied with work or a thousand other things, our tone can express irritability, annoyance, and aggravation which is projected upon our family, friends, and acquaintances. A few ways that words impact our life:     (1)   create doubt and confusion in our minds and we question our choices     (2)   generate tears that overflow    (3)   cause anger that wells up within us    (4)   crush our spirit and the result is we feel hopeless and alone    (5)   instill fear and we become frightened    (6)   show love and generate passion within us    (7)   tarnish reputations and wrecks havoc upon people’s lives    (8)   sting and wound us    (9)   depress us and we experience sadness    (10) demoralize us and the result is loss of confidence and hope    (11)  influence feelings of unworthiness    (12)  give us a sense of worthiness and confidence to be all we can be  ...

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Emotional Trash

Posted by on Jun 15, 2015 in Personal Growth Tips, Resources and Materials, Spiritual Help

We all suffer from emotional trash. The question is… What are we going to do with it? Are we going to hold on or get rid of it so that we can move forward and become the person that God designed for us to be? If you are struggling today overwhelmed by life, unhappy, tired, and feeling bogged down by your emotional trash, I recommend Georgia’s book to you. The following is a short description written by Christian psychologist Georgia Shaffer about her book Taking Out Your Emotional Trash. Feeling Tired? Overwhelmed? Unhappy? Do you want more energy, more peace, more happiness? Christian psychologist Georgia Shaffer offers a proven “toss and recycle” program to help you evaluate your emotions, keep the life-affirming ones, and discard the ones that hinder healthy relationships. Step-by-step you’ll discover how to: reduce destructive anxiety, fear, guilt, and shame eliminate persistent, toxic emotions experience greater intimacy in relationships handle life’s ups and downs more easily introduce more hope and joy into your life Through real-life stories, insightful questions, and wisdom from God’s Word, you’ll discover transforming truths that will help you be free to be who you are—loved, talented, valued, and forgiven. Georgia, we can all relate to the job of “taking out our trash,” but what led you to write Taking Out Your Emotional Trash? Like many listeners, I grew up in a home where I never learned the skills I needed to handle my disappointments, insecurities, or anger in a healthy way. As a result, those hurts and feelings piled up and created more pain in my life. It took me years to learn how to deal properly with my negative emotions. There’s a free self-assessment at www.GeorgiaShaffer.com under “Free Resources.” Use this tool to check and see how you’re doing on taking out your emotional trash. Here’s the bottom line. Waste management today can take twenty plastic soda bottles and make a Polertec fleece out of them. But that’s nothing compared to what God can do with your emotional garbage. He’s the master of waste management. He can take your junk and make something beautiful out of it—but you have to be willing to give it to him. As I mentioned earlier we all have emotional trash . . . the question is what are you doing with yours? Are you holding onto it or are you getting rid of it so that you can be free to be who God created you to be? http://georgiashaffer.com   brenda@thirteenonecoaching.com  ...

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Finding Joy and Fulfillment

Posted by on Mar 13, 2015 in Marriage Tips, Personal Growth Tips, Recent News

In marriage when reality and disillusionment pervades the spirit and the original feelings of love evaporates it is time to step back, look at your strengths and the successes you have experienced in your relationship. God said in Romans 15:13 “May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace as you trust in him, so that you may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit.” God does not want you to give up on your marriage but continue to trust and put your hope in Him. Acts of kindness, encouragement, and offering forgiveness helps to strengthen your relationship. It is possible, if couples desire, to recapture love and passion for one another by seeking to understand one another’s strengths. All of us desire to be heard, known, and loved. We suffer emotionally when we feel hurt, neglected, or misunderstood. Understanding our strengths help us to bond the marriage relationship, creating a relationship that brings joy and fulfillment. You may feel that all is hopeless and feelings for one another are dead but God has placed each of us exactly where He wants us to be. In Jeremiah 29:11 the Lord declares, “For I know the plans I have for you…” Evaluate and recognize each others strengths and weaknesses. I Corinthians 7:7 “…But each man has his own gift from God, one has this gift, another has that.”  God gives each one of us different gifts and strengths to compliment one another. Have you ever considered that we all have different gifts but love is available to all of us? Allow God to use those gifts and strengths you possess to strengthen your marriage and ask Him to love your spouse through you. Embrace and celebrate your differences in your marriage and make the choice to be in the relationship and love one another. “True love is not a feeling by which we are overwhelmed. It is a committed, thoughtful decision.” (M. Scott Peck, The Road Less Traveled, p 119)...

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