God is Able…Listens…Loves…

Posted by on May 1, 2017 in Action Steps, Personal Growth Tips, Spiritual Help

    God is able… Deep in our hearts we know God is able and we whisper in the darkness “God is able.” We may feel uncertain and unsure of what to do, but God who is able to do more than we can ask or imagine can do that which we cannot do. Ephesians 3:20 Knowing this but maybe not quite fully believing we ask “why” and question God. Job questions God Remember the story of Job? Job questioned God and he struggled in the darkness confessing his lack of understanding of all the things he suffered. Job did not doubt God was able to sustain him. He simply did not understand why these things were happening to him. He constantly asks, “Why?”.  Seeking answers Job looks within himself confessing his inability to understand all he is suffering. Job found his answers within God. Throughout the book of Job we watch as God instructs, teaches, grows and stretches him. Job sought God for direction and answers to his dilimena and we can find answers to our questions and the solution to our suffering and pain within God as Job did. Do you question God? Is He silent? Do you experience times knowing you are wrapped in His loving arms, but He appears distant and silent in the darkness? Your questions linger with no apparent answer and no solution. Prayers appear to evaporate into thin air going nowhere. The cry of your heart asks, “Why?” We whisper with doubt in our hearts to ourselves in the darkness, “Is God able?” Is God listening? Does He love and care about me? Does He remember I am here? These and other questions invade your mind. The dry dark periods test your faith and the joy of relationship. Hang on! God is not finished with you or me. He continues to write the chapters of your life working behind the scene molding and shaping you into what He desires you to become as He continues to write your story. Through the years I have asked these same questions when the path was lonely, dark, and silent. I wait knowing God is working to bring me closer to Him, instructing, teaching, growing and stretching me. I do not like it and I turn to Him sometimes in anger asking “Why?”.  Tired and weary I did not stop with “why”. I asked, “Can I have a break?”. The break I sought did not come, but seeking God through prayer, talking to Him, and reading His Word peace finally came as I surrendered to Him. Trusting that He alone knows that my heart, my longing to be obedient and my desire to grow loser to Him in the midst of my suffering, questioning and anger. Job replies to God. “I know that you can do anything, and no one can stop you.” Job 42:1-2  ...

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Forgotten by God…

Posted by on May 20, 2016 in Spiritual Help

  Has God forgotten you? Sometimes life looks bleak and you feel forgotten by God.  You question God.  Where are you? Do you remember me? God, have you forgotten me? Silence greets you. This place you traveled is temporary. God uses a time of sorrow and uncertainty for His purpose and your benefit. He will bring you back to a place of joy. Your faith will be strengthened and proven to be genuine resulting in praise, glory, and honor when Jesus Christ is revealed. I Peter 1:1-9 Have you been there? It is a lonely, dark, and desolate place. Go to God and His Word for nourishment, comfort, and encouragement. God takes you… through trials and times of despair only to renew your spirit on the road leading to Him. Your hope, answer, and solution to living a life full of joy and peace mixed in with the sorrow and trials of the world is found in God. God has never forsaken you nor forgotten about you although feelings tell you otherwise. Feelings are fickle and untrustworthy. He longs to hold you and comfort you. “So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.” Isaiah 41:10 Your fears battle your faith and you turn from God. He longs and waits for you to turn back to Him. Do not be anxious or discouraged. He is your God and He will help you when your faith falters, doubts assault you, and you question Him. Do you believe God’s promise? Do you believe what He says? Is it true? Yes, means you accept His truth. He will be with you, strengthen you, and bring you to a place of joy. Brenda Luther                                                                                                                                                        thirteenonecoaching.com...

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Love and Marriage

Posted by on Feb 13, 2016 in Love, Marriage, Marriage Tips

                                                                                                                                                                                                              In your marriage what may seem so small and insignificant may often be the thing that makes the one you love feel loved and appreciated. There are many ways to say, “I love you,” but never forget to speak the words.                                                                                                           Ways to share and say, “I love you” in your marriage:  Leave no room for doubt that loving your spouse is your priority.  Express appreciation and gratitude for all that is done for you.  Give each other room to grow. No one wants to be smothered.  Practice patience even when irritation threatens to overwhelm you.  Kiss goodbye and hello. Tell your spouse I love you and you are important to me.  Protect your marriage by setting time aside at the end of the day to spend together.  Always act with a respectful attitude in word, deed, and action.  Maintain a home filled with love, seeking one another’s best, and a safe atmosphere to share your deepest thoughts and feelings.  Seek friends who encourage you and your marriage.  All the things that irritate you let them go or discuss them and come to a resolution.  Avoid the people in your life who seek to pull you apart, cause disruptions, and dissension. Look for ways to encourage instead of complaining and learn to talk and listen to one another.  Always stand up for your spouse. Never gossip or allow anyone to talk unkindly about them.  Look for opportunities to show love.  Hold hands, hug, and be affectionate.  Prayer is effective and a tool that should not be forgotten in safe guarding your marriage.  Reading God’s Word together helps you view life from God’s perspective.  Refuse to harbor resentment or hold grudges. Let it go.  Don’t give up. Your marriage is worth fighting for.  Make the decision to stay together and love one another regardless of the difficulties.  Marriage is important and not to be taken lightly. Pray for your spouse. Be intentional about your...

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Words

Posted by on Aug 6, 2015 in Personal Growth Tips

Words … Because I think it does not necessarily mean I need to speak it. Sometimes I speak before I think. Are you guilty like me? As I realize and understand the value and impact of words, I desire to be more thoughtful before I speak. My desire is to have my spoken words to be words of love, that encourage, provides hope, and brings joy and laughter to people’s lives. I ask myself, “Do I always use wise words making the most of every opportunity and is my conversations filled with grace?” Colossians 4:5 What do my words say about me? About you? Are my words pleasing to God? Are yours? With a word God created the world, healed the sick, and cast out demons. Words are powerful. What is in our hearts is revealed when we speak. Words can change the quality of our life for good or evil, affect our mood, change our behavior, cause us to stumble, to question our choices, or help us make wise choices. Our words have the same affect upon other people. One word can change my day, your day, your spouse, our children, our life, and the people who cross our path. Let us change our day and their day with kind, encouraging words that will impact their life for good. When someone speaks sharp, unkind words to me in anger I wonder and question “Why”? Are they having a bad day? What did I do wrong? At other times I receive words that encourage and uplift me and make me smile. I forget that my tone of voice is important and affects the impact my words have upon others. Our tone can reflect happiness, anger, impatience and frustration. Take time one day and listen to your words and listen to the tone of your voice. If you are like me when you are busy and preoccupied with work or a thousand other things, our tone can express irritability, annoyance, and aggravation which is projected upon our family, friends, and acquaintances. A few ways that words impact our life:     (1)   create doubt and confusion in our minds and we question our choices     (2)   generate tears that overflow    (3)   cause anger that wells up within us    (4)   crush our spirit and the result is we feel hopeless and alone    (5)   instill fear and we become frightened    (6)   show love and generate passion within us    (7)   tarnish reputations and wrecks havoc upon people’s lives    (8)   sting and wound us    (9)   depress us and we experience sadness    (10) demoralize us and the result is loss of confidence and hope    (11)  influence feelings of unworthiness    (12)  give us a sense of worthiness and confidence to be all we can be  ...

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Be The Difference in Someone’s Life

Posted by on Jun 7, 2015 in Personal Growth Tips, Spiritual Help, Values

  1. Send flowers with a note of love, thinking of you, or encouragement. 2. Lunch on the patio at their favorite restaurant. 3. Listen when they speak making eye contact 4. A compliment 5. A phone call reminding them you are thinking of them 6. Run an errand or offer to pick up items they need 7. Greet them with a smile 8. Invite them over for coffee or tea 9. A small gift – a potted plant, package of their favorite coffee or candy 10. Invite them to a movie, a play, or for a walk 11. Prepare a meal when they do not feel well or having a hectic day 12. Share a book you recently read that they may enjoy 13. Offer to watch their children so they can have a break and relax A display of kindness extended to people who cross your path takes only a few minutes. We are often unaware of the difficulties people may be facing in their life. An act of kindness offers encouragement and hope. Brightening someone’s day does not have to cost money. It simply costs a few minutes of your time. Be the difference in someone’s life today. “Life isn’t about living, it’s about making a difference.” Jonathan Robbins “So encourage each other and build each other up…” I Thessalonians 5:11 brenda@thirteenonecoaching.com       Brenda Luther    ...

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