Posted by Brenda Luther on Jan 1, 2021 in Uncategorized
Today, I asked, God, what do You want me to focus on? How do You want me to focus on You today and in the new year? Listen… Listen and hear my voice, pay attention and hear what I say. Isaiah 28:23 Pray… Pray continually… I Thessalonians 5:17 Wait… But those who wait for the Lord shall renew their strength; they shall mount upon wings like eagles; they shall run and not be weary; they shall walk and not faint. Isaiah 40:31 Be still… Be still and know that I am God…Psalm 40:31 Be open to His guidance… I will instruct you and teach you the way you should go; I will counsel you with my light upon you. Psalm 32:8 Open my heart… Jesus answered, I am the way, the truth and the light. No one comes to the Father except through me. John 14:6 Obey… Teach me to do your will, for you are my God, may your good Spirit lead me on level ground. Psalm 143:10 Your Word is a lamp to my feet and a light for my path. Psalm 119:105 Rejoice… Rejoice in the Lord always. Philippians 4:4 Scripture for the year… Rejoice in the Lord always. I will say it again: Rejoice! Let your gentleness be evident to all. The Lord is near. Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. Finally, brother, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable – if anything is excellent or praiseworthy-think about such things. Whatever you have learned or received or heard from me, or seen in me-put it into practices. And the God of peace will be with you. Philippians 4:4-9 Word for this year – thankful… I will praise you, O Lord, with all my heart. I will tell of all your wonders. I will be glad and rejoice in you; I will sing praise to your name, O Most High. Psalm 9:1-2 Remember… For from him and through him and to him are all things. To him be the glory forever! Amen. Romans 11:36 Share God’s love… Then I heard the voice of the Lord saying, “Whom shall I send? And who will go for us? And I said, “Here am I, Send me!” Isaiah 6:8 Brenda W Luther –...
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Posted by Brenda Luther on Sep 30, 2018 in Comfort and Peace, Interruptions, Miracles_Surprises
God’s interruptions serve a purpose and are a teaching tool in His hands. For a second after receiving devastating news our world crashes. We experience the crushing weight of fear gripping our heart and squeezing the breath from our body. The heart breaks into a million little pieces. Reality is that our world has forever changed and life as we know it will never be the same. and we search for answers. The answers are not ones we want to hear. Fear and doubt whispers to us in the interruption of our world. Refuse to listen to the lies that invade our thoughts seeking to steal joy, peace, love and faith in God as they assail our mind. For God has not given us a spirit of fear and timidity, but of power, love and self-discipline. 2 Timothy 1:7 (NLT) Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and lean not on your own understanding. In all your ways, acknowledge him and he will make your paths straight. Proverbs 3:5-8 (ESV) So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand. Isaiah 41:10 (NIV) For everything comes from him and through him and to him are all things. To him be the glory forever! Amen. Romans 11:36 (ESV) I want to leave you with hope flowing through your heart. It is the Lord who goes before you. He will be with you; he will never leave you or forsake you. Do not fear or be dismayed. Dueteronmy 31:8 (ESV) For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that everyone who believes in him will not perish but have eternal life. John 3:16...
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Posted by Brenda Luther on Feb 24, 2015 in Marriage Tips, Recent News
Things to Think About 1. Take supply of what is really critical in your life. How would you invest your time on the off chance that you had six months to live? How would you consider you relationship in an unexpected way? 2. Acknowledge trade off and endure the steady contrasts. Most content couples figure out how to live with huge contrasts about cash, in-laws, excursions, family errands, and so forth. Recognizing the contrasts between you doesn’t need to mean you concur with them. 3. Distinguish and separate your dissatisfactions. Disappointments originate from numerous sources, work, youngsters, school and so forth. Dissatisfactions can originate from the present and the past. Abstain from dumping dissatisfactions on your spouse that have a place some where else. Things to Do 4. Find your spouse doing something right. Search for spouse practices that are satisfying, and compliment your spouse when he or she does them. 5. Shock your spouse with astuteness. Utilize your knowledge of your spouse to satisfy him or her out of the blue. Permit your spouse to find your insightfulness by her or himself. Do not get angry if your spouse misses your effort. 6. Cut out “couple time” that your spouse will appreciate. Our occupied lives frequently fill up with errands and daily tasks. Take time to spend with your partner. Deal with Tense Moments 7. Before responding indignantly, count to ten. This old maxim really helps. Talk your point, however without outrage. Each expression of negative feelings takes five declarations of positive feelings to recapture a position of neutral feelings. 8. Arrange an alternative spot to talk about antagonistic issues. Moving from your standard area of contentions to an alternate room can move your contradictions enough to decrease negative sentiments and present new thoughts. 9. Take a time out. At the point when issues get heated, pleasantly declare a twenty-moment time out and after that come back with a cool tone and the aim to trade off. 10. When you know you have made a mistake, apologize. Few of us live with a spouse without committing a few errors. Concede your issue, say you’re sorry, and investigate methods for maintaining a strategic distance from the error later on. Listen with Your Heart 11. Give solutions and support. Feeling connected is a strong desire in a relationship. Numerous spouses look to soothe the disappointments of day by day life by imparting them to a spouse. Truly listening cultivates togetherness. Listen first. In the event that an answer jumps out at you say, “When you are prepared, dear, I have an answer that may be useful to you.” When your spouse is prepared, she or he will be more open to your thought. 12. Profoundly listen to your spouse. On an issue that is critical to your spouse, rehash your spouse’s words so he or she knows you are truly tuning in. Keep this up and when your spouse is done, say the three most difficult words in a relationship, “Is there more?” Continue listening...
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Posted by Brenda Luther on Feb 24, 2015 in Personal Growth Tips, Recent News
The accompanying tips will help you achieve a personal growth mindset: 1. Quit justifying everything You don’t have to justify everything that you do. When you embrace another hobby or side interest, your loved ones will ask you for what valid reason you have done it. Keep in mind that you don’t have to offer any defense other than ‘because I want to!’ 2. Engage new individuals Search out and have discussions with individuals, and gatherings, whom you may not have invested time with beforehand. Approach these discussions with a receptive outlook and you will learn new things and have your own particular perspectives tested. This will help to spruce up your life and fortify your imagination. 3. Allow yourself to dream Each new escapade, or accomplishment, starts with a fantasy. Allow yourself to dream. Don’t put confinements on these fantasies. Your fantasies are a piece of your innovative self. In the event that you grasp them, you will open new open doors for self-development. When you recognize these opportunities, try them out. 4. Understand that you will never try your hardest Regardless of what you do, there will always be open doors for improvement. There are always chances to gain from your encounters and utilize the criticism to make strides. Consequently, you can never try your hardest however you can do the best that you can at any given moment, with the information and ability you have around. When you understand and acknowledge this, you understand that the judgements of others are superfluous. You can take comfort that you did the best you could around them and resolve to gain from the experience so you may improve. 5. Concentrate on the experience as opposed to the finished result There may be activities which you have avoided because you felt that you would not be any great at them. Ask yourself ‘Does it truly make a difference in the event that I am bad at it?’ The answer is ‘No’. You don’t have to be great at it, on the off chance that you appreciate it. You are not searching for a record deal or a professional sports contract. You are essentially searching for entertainment only. In the event that you concentrate on the experience instead of the deciding result, you will have a ton more fun and you may, unwittingly, discover something which you are really great at. 6. Attempt one new thing daily In the event that you focus on attempting one new thing consistently, you will have attempted 365 new things in one year. The shots of discovering something you like, appreciate or are great at are much higher. More importantly, you will rapidly build up a self-improvement mentality where you see challenges as opposed to issues, and you are unafraid to attempt new things. A self-awareness mentality allows you to tackle new difficulties, seeing only opportunities for fun and learning. There may be tough times ahead however when you have the right mentality, you are stronger. You accept that things will...
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Posted by Brenda Luther on Feb 24, 2015 in Marriage Tips, Recent News
In the event that you are one of the numerous spouses and wives who want a deeper closeness with your mate, yet aren’t certain where to begin or what moves to make, let me recommend a few tips for you here: 1. Don’t Expect Immediate Change It is exceptionally uncommon for a relationship to move from lacking spirituality to strong growth overnight. It takes sustaining and pruning over the long haul to have a beautiful garden; in the same way, it requires some serious energy and time to develop to profound closeness. Thus, a great spot to begin is by planting the seeds of spiritual growth. 2. Pray For Your Spouse This is a simple suggestion and one that is easy to start, yet one that numerous couples neglect. Please note that I’m not discussing hours of prayer here, but simply a daily time to pray to God for your companion and your relationship. Paul’s recommendation to Timothy was to “teach yourself with the end goal of piety” (I Timothy 4:7). As you figure out how to give your relationship to God and begin praying to God for one another every day, you’ll be creating a powerful discipline and propensity in your home. Pray to God for your life partner’s necessities and look for God’s will for how you can serve your companion. Indeed this one basic demonstration of every day prayer to God for your mate will make a difference. 3. Pray Together If your spouse is interested in it, pray together every day. If your spouse is not profoundly inspired, then keep praying to God and do it at a supper or an alternate time that appears to be less scary. I know one couple who began praying together consistently with the wife basically saying, “God, thank you for our sustenance. Thank you for the kids. Thank you for my husband, Jack. Help us to be a God-respecting couple. So be it.” One day, following quite a while of that request to God, Jack said, “Let me pray, as well.” He said, “God, I’m really not much of a prayer, however I agree with Janet, and a debt of gratitude is in order regarding Janet’s heart for you. So be it, once more.” After a while the children got included as well. Following a year Jack and Janet were feeling better praying together. I accept this is genuine: “Couples who pray together, stay together.” 4. Worship Together Regularly A characteristic piece of becoming together profoundly is worshipping together. Shockingly, a few couples don’t have the benefit of worshipping together. Maybe one works or simply won’t go to church. This is an area to continue your quest to God; search for ways to discover significance together when you can. I know of a spouse who consented to go to church with his wife once a month. As opposed to annoying or censuring about the other three weeks, she made a major ordeal out of that one morning a month by serving fun food and transforming it into a pleasurable occasion. Within a year he was going most Sundays. 5. Create...
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Brenda Luther is a Professional Christian Life Coach with an Advanced Certificate in Christian Life Coaching and a Diploma in Christian Life Coaching. She is also a member of the Life Care Team at The Summit Church in Kernersville, NC and a member of AACC (American Association of Christian Counselors). 
