13 Ways to Show Your Love

Posted by on May 18, 2015 in Family, Marriage Tips, Personal Growth Tips, Spiritual Help, Values

  Attributes of love… 1.  is patient 2.  is kind 3.  is not jealous 4.  is not boastful, proud, or rude 5.  does not demand 6.  is not irritable 7.  keeps no record of wrong 8.  is never glad about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out 9.  never gives up 10.  never loses faith 11.  is always hopeful 12.  endures through every circumstance 13.  will last forever Love is defined in I Corinthians 13:4-8 giving us a description of God’s kind of love. Our selfish nature goes against this kind of love because it is selfless and not focused on our needs, but on the needs of others. To love directing love outward and not inward toward ourselves we need God’s help to set aside our selfish nature. The more Christlike we become the more love we can receive and share. Faith, hope, and love are intertwined together. It takes faith, hope in the power of God, and acts of commitment and sacrifice as we allow God to love others through us expecting nothing in return. “…but if I didn’t love others, I would be of no value whatsoever.” I Corinthians 13:1-3 brenda luther     thirteenonecoaching.com    ...

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13 Things to Enjoy and Energize You!

Posted by on May 11, 2015 in Action Steps

1. Walk on the beach 2. Watch sunrise or sunset (I enjoy both) 3. Read a book 4. Listen to music – worship music, country, jazz, blues, beach 5. Drive with the windows down 6. Conversation 7. Smile 8. Children/Grandchildren 9. Volunteer to help someone 10. Dance 11. Reflect on God’s unconditional love for you 12. Enjoy time with family 13. Laugh The best thing in life to be is yourself. Do something today for you that makes you feel happy and carefree.         “This is the day the Lord hath made.         Rejoice and be glad in it.” Psalm...

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13 Things I am Thankful for Today

Posted by on May 5, 2015 in Action Steps, Family, Personal Growth Tips, Spiritual Help

1.  Family – their love, hugs, laughter 2.  Jesus – that He was willing to die for my sins 3.  Health – although there are days I may not feel good, there are more good than bad days 4.  Sunshine – I love the sunshine. It always reminds me that God is with me 5.  Blue skies filled with white fluffy clouds 6.  Rain – the world looks so beautiful, fresh, and new after the rain 7.  Rainbows – a reminder of God’s love and His promises 8.  Spring time when all the flowers bloom and the grass and the trees turn green 9.  Birds chirping in the early morning hours sharing their songs with the world 10. My Mother who read to me as a child and taught me about God 11.  Friends who walk the journey of life with me 12.  Pastor Jonathan Robbins at The Summit Church whose sermons convict me, encourage me, and fill me with the desire to know God more intimately, and to share God’s love with others 13.  God for His love, mercy, and grace that carries me through each moment of the day and His Word that often convicts me but soothes my soul and gives me guidance When we step back and look at our lives we are so blessed. Instead of dwelling on the negative aspects of your life today, “count your blessings”. Some days it may be difficult due to circumstances in your life to think of one thing you are thankful for because it is difficult to drag your body out of  bed and face the day. You want to curl up in the warm covers and escape the world and the challenges it offers today. I understand. We have all been there. Start your day before you jump out of bed with a prayer to God thanking Him for His blessings and thank Him for walking alongside you today holding your right hand through each difficult moment, loving you, giving you strength, and encouraging  you. Soon those difficult days will turn into days filled with moments of joy and peace as you become ware of God and His love for you.           “Praise the Lord!          Give thanks to the Lord, for he is good!                 His faithful love endures forever.”  Psalm 106:1 Brenda Luther          ThirteenOneCoaching.com               brenda@thirteenonecoaching.com    ...

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Is Fear Holding You In It’s Grip?

Posted by on Apr 17, 2015 in Action Steps, Obstacles, Personal Growth Tips, Spiritual Help

We set ourselves up for failure and do not realize it because of the fears and beliefs that we have buried within us. Is it that we have been taught that we are not good enough, perfect enough, pretty enough, not as smart as our siblings, or we were told we expect too much? Some of these fears are buried within many of us and we push them to the bottom refusing to let those thoughts and emotions see the light of day. Because of these fears and beliefs we learned or were taught as a child we experience guilt and/or anxiety. How do we overcome the fears and beliefs we hold within us? How do we allow them to rise to the surface? How do we expel them from within us? How do we turn those negative thoughts that keep us guilt ridden and full of anxiety into something positive within us? The decision to stop sabotaging ourselves and the desire to grow as an individual who wants to reach their God-given potential is key to overcoming those self-defeating fears and stopping the self-sabotage. I know a wonderful person that each time life appears to be moving forward and everything looks to be falling into place from my point of view looking from the inside out self-sabotages their life. This is destructive to our well-being, our peace of mind, and the life that God has designed for us to live becoming all that He wants us to be in order to do all that He has called us to do. Do you desire to move forward and become all that God who loves you so deeply desires for you to be? Is fear holding you back? We all experience fear but letting go and releasing your fears to God allows Him to come along side holding your right hand guiding you forward. What a joyous feeling to realize that God loves us so much that He cares about every little detail of our life. I don’t know about you but knowing and believing this gives me a feeling of relief and peace. I do not have to try to control the details of my life. He controls them all as I release all to Him. Life does not just fall into place over night. It is a continual growing process moving us forward as we surrender our fears and beliefs to God that trap us and hold us back from becoming all that we can be for Him. Today is decision day. Read  your Bible, spend time in prayer and conversation with God, share your story with someone you can trust and accepts you as you are regardless of the circumstances. If there is no one like that in your life and you need someone to share with, contact your pastor, a counselor, or a coach who can...

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Pain. Reassurance. He Makes Me Brave

Posted by on Apr 15, 2015 in Personal Growth Tips, Spiritual Help

PAIN? What is pain? Discomfort? Uneasiness? Anxiety? Dull ache? Excruciating? Distress?  Hopelessness? Helplessness? Pain is all of these things to me. At this moment I feel numb and empty. There are no words to express my feelings. The words evade my thoughts. Have you felt these emotions rush over your body invading your spirit? Recently I had two dental procedures believing they were necessary to evade a root canal in my future. Regret is a mild word to describe my feelings at the moment as I experience discomfort and pain. Maybe a root canal was in my future but now I say, “If it does not hurt, leave it alone.” REASSURANCE  God awareness Without a doubt next time I will think through a recommendation more thoroughly. I do not know about you but I always seem to learn my lessons the painful way. Is there any other way to learn? Eventually, in due time my thoughts drift to God and His blessings amidst pain, disappointment, and that dull empty feeling that drifts into my life at times. I ask why? There is no answer. As a result of reading His Word, I am reassured me that He loves me, is with me, and that all is in His design and His desire to mold me and make me, humble me, and create an awareness in me that only He can fill. YOU MAKE ME BRAVE! The words of the song are true Have you heard the song, He Makes Me Brave? The song wanders through my mind. The words are true. God’s love washes over me and crashes over me giving me strength as His grace makes me brave to embrace Him who created me and desires for me to follow Him regardless of where the journey may lead. My pain and discomfort is mild compared to others I know that suffer from serious illnesses and heartache. Although one thing I have learned in my life is that pain is pain regardless of the severity. YOU CALL ME OUT Excruciating pain Without a doubt pain can be excruciating at times. I allow God to work in my life. In light of what I know to be true in God’s word, I release my all to Him knowing that He holds my future in His hands. Therefore, He takes my broken life and uses it for His glory and His purpose. PAUL’S PRAYER Ephesians 13:14-19 In conclusion, today I pray this prayer for you. When I think of the wisdom and the scope of God’s plan. I fall to my knees and pray to the Father, the Creator of everything in heaven and on earth. I pray that from his glorious, unlimited resources he will give you mighty inner strength through is Holy Spirit. And I pray that Christ will be more and more at home in your hearts as...

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