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Pain. Reassurance. He Makes Me Brave

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Pain. Reassurance. He Makes Me Brave

  Pain? What is pain? Discomfort? Uneasiness? Anxiety? Dull ache? Excruciating? Distress?  Hopelessness? Helplessness? Pain is all of these things to me. At this moment I feel numb and empty. There are no words to express my feelings. The words evade my thoughts. Have you felt these emotions rush over your body invading your spirit? Recently I had two dental procedures believing they were necessary to evade a root canal in my future. Regret is a mild word to describe my feelings at the moment as I experience discomfort and pain. Maybe a root canal was in my future but now I say, “If it does not hurt, leave it alone.” Next time I will think through a recommendation more thoroughly. I do not know about you but I always seem to learn my lessons the painful way. Is there any other way to learn? My thoughts drift to God and His blessings amidst pain, disappointment, and that dull empty feeling that drifts into my life at times. I ask why? There is no answer. His Word reassures me that He loves me, is with me, and that all is in His design and His desire to mold me and make me, humble me, and create an awareness in me that only He can fill. Have you heard the song, He Makes Me Brave? The song wanders through my mind. It is true. God’s love washes over me and crashes over me giving me strength as His grace makes me brave to embrace Him who created me and desires for me to follow Him regardless of where the journey may lead. My pain and discomfort is mild compared to others I know that suffer from serious illnesses and heartache. Although one thing I have learned in my life is that pain is pain regardless of the severity. As I allow God to work in my life I release my all to Him knowing that He holds my future in His hands. He takes my broken life and uses it for His glory and His purpose. The following is Paul’s Prayer in Ephesians 3:14-19. Today I pray this prayer for you. “When I think of the wisdom and the scope of God’s plan. I fall to my knees and pray to the Father, the Creator of everything in heaven and on earth. I pray that from his glorious, unlimited resources he will give you mighty inner strength through his Holy Spirit. And I pray that Christ will be more and more at home in your hearts as you trust in him. May your roots go down deep into the soil of God’s marvelous love. And may you have the power to understand, as all God’s people should, how wide, how long, how high, and how deep his love really is. May you experience the love of Christ, though it is so great you will never fully understand it. Then you will be filled with the fullness of life and power that comes from God.” (NIV) In this moment stop and allow God to embrace you as His love washes over you and crashes over you filling those empty places within you with His love and grace....

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Trust, Delight, Commit All to God

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In Psalm 37 David calls us to trust, delight in God, and commit all we have and all we are to Him including our families, our job, and our finances. Get into God’s Word, get to know Him, spend time in prayer, and fellowship with your Heavenly Father. We cannot trust someone we do not know. When struggling with the desire to trust God ask yourself, “What do I have the power to control?” The answer is nothing. Surrender to God all that you are, all that you have, all that you hope to have, all that you desire to be and peace comes. Remember the song “I Surrender All?” Surrendering all to Jesus is a daily, moment by moment action we take. Give up the fretting and worrying and replace those emotions and thoughts with trusting God, relying upon Him to provide and expect Him to do so. Surrender yourself completely to God. “Don’t worry about the wicked. Don’t envy those who do wrong. For like grass, they soon fade away. Like springtime flowers, they soon wither. Trust in the Lord and do good. Then you will live safely in the land and prosper. Take delight in the Lord, and he will give you your heart’s desires. Commit everything you do to the Lord. Trust him, and he will help you. He will make your innocence as clear as the dawn, and the justice of your case will shine like the noonday sun. Be still in the presence of the Lord, and wait patiently for him to act. Don’t worry about evil people who prosper or fret about their wicked schemes. Stop your anger! Turn from your rage! Do not envy others — it only leads to harm. For the wicked will be destroyed but those who trust in the Lord will possess the land.” Psalm 36:1-9 (NLT) The keys to surrender in these verses are don’t worry, trust, delight, commit, be still, and refrain from anger. When God asks us to do something He backs it up with a promise, a blessing as in Psalm 37:11. “But the meek will inherit the land and enjoy great peace.” (NLT) When we commit to God He gives us the wisdom to know what to change and what to accept. Release all to Him and enjoy the peace that only our God can give to us. “God blesses those who are gentle and lowly, for the whole earth will belong to them.” Matthew 5:5 (NLT) Everything that comes into our lives is designed with God’s purpose in mind as He molds us and makes us into what He desires for us to be. Often I get busy and consumed with daily activities and forget that what is best for me is moment by moment surrender of me to God who created me, calls me His child, and desires His best for me. He longs for me to surrender my all to Him and release control of my life to Him. He draws me up short and I become overwhelmed and cry out to Him. My prayer today is that you will surrender your all to God and allow Him to overwhelm you with His peace and His love.              ...

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Hurt, Guilt, Anger, Forgiveness

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Hurt, Guilt, Anger, Forgiveness

I want to recommend a powerful book to you – When God Stopped Keeping Score…How to Break Free From a A Past Filled With Hurt, Guilt and Anger Through The Power Of Forgiveness by R.A. Clark. We have all suffered through anger, resentment, pain, and guilt. The question is are we still allowing ourselves to suffer because of things that have happened to us in the present or the past? Love is often hard when we observe so much hate in the world. This book is the first step on your journey to become all that God intended for you to be when He created you. My pastor said, “Forgiveness is the best gift you can give someone.” Forgiveness is also one of the best gifts you can give yourself. Brenda    ...

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Hello…Are You Broken?

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Hello…Are You Broken?

  Hello, Are you broken? I’ve been broken too. I know what it’s like: To cry in the night…alone. To scream obscenties in private rage; To feel the endless pit of pain, To soak my pillows with tears, To wonder when the pain will ever end, To wonder if I’ll ever, really, be whole again, To ask God why I was born, To ask God why the pain, How can He use what I’ve got, How can He take a messed up life, And turn it into something special? Only one who has experienced brokenness can best Recognize, And encourage one who has been broken, And work to encourage others who are also broken. (C Hull) If this describes you today, seek God, read your Bible, find comfort in God’s Word and His promises, and encourage others. We are all broken. God has taken us to places in our lives we never asked or wanted to go. When we hit rock bottom the solution is to turn to God as our source of strength. He reaches down, raises us up, and heals us as He changes our heart and our desires. The poem above I came across several years ago described my feelings and my struggles. God continues to break me as He molds me into His desire for me. “Why am I so discouraged? Why so sad? I will put my hope in God! I will praise him again- my Savior and my God! Psalm 42:5-6 (NLT) “…for the joy of the Lord is your strength.” Nehemiah 8:10 (NIV)      ...

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Prayer for Inner Strength

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Prayer for Inner Strength

My prayer for you and me today is Ephesians 3:16-18. “I pray that from His glorious, unlimited resources He will give you inner strength through His Holy Spirit. And I pray that Christ will be at home in your hearts as you trust in Him. May your roots  grow down deep into the soil of God’s marvelous love and keep you strong. And may you have the power to understand, as all God’s people should, how wide, how long, how high, and how deep His love really is. May you experience the love of Christ, though it is too great to understand fully. Then you will be made complete with the fullness of life and power that comes from...

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God’s Word

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God’s Word

God’s Word promises us in Proverbs 22:6 “Train a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not turn from it.” If you are struggling today with a problem with your children or an adult son or daughter who has strayed from God, do not fear for God gave us this promise. Release your child over to God and commit each day to claim God’s promise for your child and watch God work in their lives. Enjoy your day!...

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I Asked

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I Asked

  I asked for strength and God gave me difficulties to make me strong. I asked for wisdom and God gave me problems to solve. I asked for prosperity and God gave me brawn and brains to work. I asked for courage and God gave me dangers to overcome. I asked for patience and God placed me in situations where I was forced to wait. I asked for love and God gave me troubled people to help. I asked for favors and God gave me opportunities. I asked for everything so I could enjoy life. Instead, He gave me life so I could enjoy everything. I received nothing I wanted, I received everything I needed. Unknown...

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Finding Joy and Fulfillment

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Finding Joy and Fulfillment

In marriage when reality and disillusionment pervades the spirit and the original feelings of love evaporates it is time to step back, look at your strengths and the successes you have experienced in your relationship. God said in Romans 15:13 “May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace as you trust in him, so that you may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit.” God does not want you to give up on your marriage but continue to trust and put your hope in Him. Acts of kindness, encouragement, and offering forgiveness helps to strengthen your relationship. It is possible, if couples desire, to recapture love and passion for one another by seeking to understand one another’s strengths. All of us desire to be heard, known, and loved. We suffer emotionally when we feel hurt, neglected, or misunderstood. Understanding our strengths help us to bond the marriage relationship, creating a relationship that brings joy and fulfillment. You may feel that all is hopeless and feelings for one another are dead but God has placed each of us exactly where He wants us to be. In Jeremiah 29:11 the Lord declares, “For I know the plans I have for you…” Evaluate and recognize each others strengths and weaknesses. I Corinthians 7:7 “…But each man has his own gift from God, one has this gift, another has that.”  God gives each one of us different gifts and strengths to compliment one another. Have you ever considered that we all have different gifts but love is available to all of us? Allow God to use those gifts and strengths you possess to strengthen your marriage and ask Him to love your spouse through you. Embrace and celebrate your differences in your marriage and make the choice to be in the relationship and love one another. “True love is not a feeling by which we are overwhelmed. It is a committed, thoughtful decision.” (M. Scott Peck, The Road Less Traveled, p 119)...

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12 Helpful Tips for Couples

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12 Helpful Tips for Couples

Things to Think About 1. Take supply of what is really critical in your life. How would you invest your time on the off chance that you had six months to live? How would you consider you relationship in an unexpected way? 2. Acknowledge trade off and endure the steady contrasts. Most content couples figure out how to live with huge contrasts about cash, in-laws, excursions, family errands, and so forth. Recognizing the contrasts between you doesn’t need to mean you concur with them. 3. Distinguish and separate your dissatisfactions. Disappointments originate from numerous sources, work, youngsters, school and so forth. Dissatisfactions can originate from the present and the past. Abstain from dumping dissatisfactions on your spouse that have a place some where else. Things to Do 4. Find your spouse doing something right. Search for spouse practices that are satisfying, and compliment your spouse when he or she does them. 5. Shock your spouse with astuteness. Utilize your knowledge of your spouse to satisfy him or her out of the blue. Permit your spouse to find your insightfulness by her or himself. Do not get angry if your spouse misses your effort. 6. Cut out “couple time” that your spouse will appreciate. Our occupied lives frequently fill up with errands and daily tasks. Take time to spend with your partner. Deal with Tense Moments 7. Before responding indignantly, count to ten. This old maxim really helps. Talk your point, however without outrage. Each expression of negative feelings takes five declarations of positive feelings to recapture a position of neutral feelings. 8. Arrange an alternative spot to talk about antagonistic issues. Moving from your standard area of contentions to an alternate room can move your contradictions enough to decrease negative sentiments and present new thoughts. 9. Take a time out. At the point when issues get heated, pleasantly declare a twenty-moment time out and after that come back with a cool tone and the aim to trade off. 10. When you know you have made a mistake, apologize. Few of us live with a spouse without committing a few errors. Concede your issue, say you’re sorry, and investigate methods for maintaining a strategic distance from the error later on. Listen with Your Heart 11. Give solutions and support. Feeling connected is a strong desire in a relationship. Numerous spouses look to soothe the disappointments of day by day life by imparting them to a spouse. Truly listening cultivates togetherness. Listen first. In the event that an answer jumps out at you say, “When you are prepared, dear, I have an answer that may be useful to you.” When your spouse is prepared, she or he will be more open to your thought. 12. Profoundly listen to your spouse. On an issue that is critical to your spouse, rehash your spouse’s words so he or she knows you are truly tuning in. Keep this up and when your spouse is done, say the three most difficult words in a relationship, “Is there more?” Continue listening until your spouse can reply “No” to this inquiry. This is hard to do however is can go far to strengthening your relationship. As seen on Relationship...

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6 Tips for Developing a Personal Growth Mindset

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6 Tips for Developing a Personal Growth Mindset

The accompanying tips will help you achieve a personal growth mindset: 1. Quit justifying everything You don’t have to justify everything that you do. When you embrace another hobby or side interest, your loved ones will ask you for what valid reason you have done it. Keep in mind that you don’t have to offer any defense other than ‘because I want to!’ 2. Engage new individuals Search out and have discussions with individuals, and gatherings, whom you may not have invested time with beforehand. Approach these discussions with a receptive outlook and you will learn new things and have your own particular perspectives tested. This will help to spruce up your life and fortify your imagination. 3. Allow yourself to dream Each new escapade, or accomplishment, starts with a fantasy. Allow yourself to dream. Don’t put confinements on these fantasies. Your fantasies are a piece of your innovative self. In the event that you grasp them, you will open new open doors for self-development. When you recognize these opportunities, try them out. 4. Understand that you will never try your hardest Regardless of what you do, there will always be open doors for improvement. There are always chances to gain from your encounters and utilize the criticism to make strides. Consequently, you can never try your hardest however you can do the best that you can at any given moment, with the information and ability you have around. When you understand and acknowledge this, you understand that the judgements of others are superfluous. You can take comfort that you did the best you could around them and resolve to gain from the experience so you may improve. 5. Concentrate on the experience as opposed to the finished result There may be activities which you have avoided because you felt that you would not be any great at them. Ask yourself ‘Does it truly make a difference in the event that I am bad at it?’ The answer is ‘No’. You don’t have to be great at it, on the off chance that you appreciate it. You are not searching for a record deal or a professional sports contract. You are essentially searching for entertainment only. In the event that you concentrate on the experience instead of the deciding result, you will have a ton more fun and you may, unwittingly, discover something which you are really great at. 6. Attempt one new thing daily In the event that you focus on attempting one new thing consistently, you will have attempted 365 new things in one year. The shots of discovering something you like, appreciate or are great at are much higher. More importantly, you will rapidly build up a self-improvement mentality where you see challenges as opposed to issues, and you are unafraid to attempt new things. A self-awareness mentality allows you to tackle new difficulties, seeing only opportunities for fun and learning. There may be tough times ahead however when you have the right mentality, you are stronger. You accept that things will happen however you concentrate on recognizing an answer, actualizing it and proceeding onward. You realize that you may fizzle at an errand however that doesn’t make you a disappointment. Indeed, it manages you an important chance to learn and move forward. With a self-improvement attitude, you are more satisfied, healthier and you have a pizzazz. You get to sincerely develop. Setbacks infrequently upset you on the grounds that you realize...

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